A GAY throuple has made history after listing three dads on their son’s birth certificate – a process costing them $120,000 in legal fees.
Their journey to joint fatherhood and their legal battle to become dads to their two children, three-year-old Piper and baby Parker, has been detailed in “Three Dads and a Baby” – a new book out this month.
The family nanny brought the trio’s daughter Piper in to the hospital shortly after Parker was born, to meet her new brother[/caption]
Jenkins with baby Parker, the throuple’s second-bron[/caption]
The book, written by one of the dads, Dr Ian Jenkins, outlines how Jenkins and his partners, Jeremy Hodges and Dr Alan Mayfield, don’t see their family as being unusual, the New York Post reported.
“The fact that Piper has three parents is just not a big deal,” Jenkins writes in the book.
“I have three parents myself — my mother, father and stepmother — and no one thinks anything of it.”
“Some people seem to think it’s about a ton of sex or something, or we’re unstable and must do crazy things. [But] it’s really remarkably ordinary and domestic in our house and definitely not ‘Tiger King,’” he said.
Jenkins met Mayfield, who worked as a psychiatrist, in Boston while completing a medical residency.
The pair were together for eight years before Hodges, who worked at a zoo hospital, came into the relationship.
While Jenkins said their relationship with Hodges started off as a friendship, the three soon developed romantic feelings, and became a throuple.
They had been together for five years before they started discussing parenthood.
Talks about expanding their family became serious when friends offered to donate their leftover embryos to the trio.
The process was anything but simple; the family spent more than $120,000 on legal fees, contracts, implantations and tests to begin their road to parenthood.
Jenkins said the throuple had been together in a romantic relationship for five years before they started talking about expanding their family[/caption]
A picture of the throuple snapped in San Diego back in 2019[/caption]
They found a surrogate and went through the adoption process for their donated embryos, only to have one embryo turn out to be non-viable, and the other fail to properly implant.
The process started over again, and a friend named Meghan came to the rescue and donated her eggs to the trio.
“Gay couples don’t stumble into parenthood by accident. It’s always a deliberate act, and a complicated one,” Jenkins wrote of the process.
More tricky legal processes ensued, involving separate contracts between each man and each woman.
Another cycle meant another lot of contracts had to be drawn up, resulting in hefty legal fees.
“Redoing them means $500 an hour in fees, and the requirement is to pay four lawyers [one to represent each father, plus one for the surrogate] to craft a parenting agreement, which no straight couple has probably ever been asked to sign,” Jenkins’ book read.
The trio’s “poly birth certificate” was finalised just before their first daughter, Piper, was born.
According to Jenkins, the certificate gave the three dads a legal link to their daughter. Without it, they would have been without visitation rights if they split up, and would have lacked the ability to consent for medical care.
“No legal responsibilities. No automatic inheritance. This would have been really risky for the family,” he said.
Jenkins wrote about often feeling like outsiders throughout the process, but said the stress and pain of the fight were worth it.
Piper and Parker had no issues understanding the nature of their parents’ relationship, he said.
“I’m Papa, Alan is Dada and Jeremy is Daddy,” said Jenkins.
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“We all bring something different. Alan is the best at reading books, with an accent and backstory for every character.”
Hodges was the creative parent, while Mayfield was often the family cook, and resident fort-maker.
Jenkins claimed Piper saw her daddies as a source of pride – and bragged to her preschool friends about having one more parent than them.
After the trio’s first embryo donation didn’t work out, their friend Meghan came to the rescue and donated her eggs[/caption]
A photo of the throuple with their “egg mum”[/caption] Link