While most people like to begin conversations on dating apps about basics such as jobs and hobbies, some like to stand out by taking a more intense approach.
Set up by Manchester student Iona, she coined the phrase ‘softboy’ to describe tactics used by men who want to appear like ‘good guys’, even if the reality is rather different.
‘A softboy is the guy on Tinder who chain-smokes rollies (this is a big part of his personality), quotes David Lynch’s filmography, and is definitely, really, 100 per cent a staunch feminist,’ she told Dazed.
‘The softboy lures you in with seemingly interesting conversation, a “good guy” attitude and his speeches about gender equality – cool! – before eventually needing some time to “figure himself out”, then ghosting you, all the while continuing to watch all of your Instagram stories.
An Instagram account featuring cringeworthy online dating conversations has gained over 86,000 followers. One woman shared her conversation with a man who claimed to have dreamed about her
Her Instagram account which has over 86,000 followers features conversations including men questioning women’s interest in music and culture.
Another said he’d been dreaming about his potential love interest before they had even met, while another claimed to have ‘sensed’ his match before they connected online.
In one instance a man claimed to have crashed his boat just days after trying to lure his date to listen to music with him on board.
Here, FEMAIL rounds up a selection of the most cringeworthy ‘soft boy’ interactions.
Who knew that listening to music required instructions? A woman who was advised on how she should be consuming her favourite tunes by an admirer
Profound: Asking where someone lives is a fairly standard question when you’re getting to know them, but one man took things deeper
Getting philosophical: This guy cerntainly seems confused about who he really is and finished his tirade by suggesting he exit the conversation
Not plain sailing! A woman who was surprised her date had a boat and was keen to pay a visit was told the vessel had crashed just days later
A sixth sense? One woman questioned her date’s choice of words after he claimed to have ‘sensed’ her rather than noticed her
Another received a paragraph of explanations after wishing her date goodnight, detailing how he was intending to stay awake and enjoy sensory experiences
A student who was unable to meet her date due to university commitments ended up being called a ‘strange creature’
One person shared the follow up series of questions they received after failing to respond to a message days earlier
Another individual was lost for words after the person they matched with online began offering to worship them
One person was advised to try and treat their depression with nature after opening up about their mental health
A man who was fed up of not receiving responses to his messages shared plans to erase the woman he had been speaking to
One person shared the unnerving message they received after matching with a potential date
Another shared the heated reaction they received for not wanting to stay in contact with a man who began randomly messaging