Lorraine Kelly says Meghan Markle’s miscarriage was ‘exactly’ what happened to her as she sends her sympathies

LORRAINE Kelly said Meghan Markle’s miscarriage sounds exactly the same as her own experience as she sent her and Prince Harry her sympathies.

The Duchess of Sussex, 39, bravely detailed her loss in July in a New York Times op-ed earlier today.

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Lorraine Kelly opened up about her own miscarriage heartache today[/caption]

Meghan wrote how she and Harry had experienced “unbearable grief” and recalled the tragic moment she knew she had lost her baby.

The heartbreaking essay was published just minutes before Lorraine took to the air this morning.

Discussing the news with Dr Hilary, she said: “It was almost exactly the same, having to go to hospital and the way she talked about it. 

“What really helped me was being able to talk to you obviously and also other people, but also Rosie.

“I think she was only six then and I know Archie is a lot younger than that but I know that that will really help you know having another child will really help.

“My heart goes out to them, it’s so sad and I think the way she’s done it is absolutely brilliant.”

Lorraine spoke of how women deal with miscarriages in many different ways, and there isn’t a right way to cope with loss.

Reflecting on her own coping mechanism, she said she rushed back to work, and in hindsight, it was too soon.

She said: “I went back to work too quickly, you told me and I know I went too quickly.”

The TV presenter, 60, has a daughter called Rosie, 24.

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Meghan Markle today revealed she had suffered a miscarriage in a moving piece in the New York Times[/caption]

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Meghan, seen here in July with Prince Harry, today told how she suffered a miscarriage that month[/caption]

In her essay, Meghan said she had been looking after her son Archie, who would have been about 14-months-old at the time, when she felt a “sharp cramp”.

In the moving piece, she wrote: “After changing his diaper, I felt a sharp cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the cheerful tune a stark contrast to my sense that something was not right.

“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second. Hours later, I lay in a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand.

“I felt the clamminess of his palm and kissed his knuckles, wet from both our tears. Staring at the cold white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we’d heal.”

Meghan said she had decided to speak out about her loss because miscarriage was still a taboo subject which led to a “cycle of solitary mourning”.

The former actress said she wanted to encourage people to ask “are you OK?” this holiday season.

In the touching essay, she added: “Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, ‘Are you OK?’”

The duchess referenced the interview she gave in South Africa last year when ITV journalist Tom Bradby asked her the same question.

At the time, she struggled to hold back tears, saying: “Thank you for asking because not many people have asked if I’m OK.”

And in the New York Times essay, Meghan spoke of the importance of sharing pain, saying “together we can take the first steps towards healing”.

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The couple had their first son Archie in May 2019[/caption]

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Meghan said she had been caring for Archie when she felt a sharp pain[/caption]

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Meghan recounted the moment she held Harry’s hand in hospital after suffering the miscarriage[/caption]

Meghan Markle shared her experience to support other women

Meghan wrote in the powerful op-ed: “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few.

“In the pain of our loss, my husband and I discovered that in a room of 100 women, 10 to 20 of them will have suffered from miscarriage.

“Yet despite the staggering commonality of this pain, the conversation remains taboo, riddled with (unwarranted) shame, and perpetuating a cycle of solitary mourning.”

She added: “Some have bravely shared their stories; they have opened the door, knowing that when one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same.

“We have learned that when people ask how any of us are doing, and when they really listen to the answer, with an open heart and mind, the load of grief often becomes lighter — for all of us.

“In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”

She also reflected on the trials of 2020, noting the “loss and pain” people have felt from losing loved ones to coronavirus and the wave of Black Lives Matter protests sparked by the deaths of George Floyd and Breonna Taylor.

Meghan said: “In places where there was once community, there is now division.”

“We aren’t just fighting over our opinions of facts; we are polarized over whether the fact is, in fact, a fact.

“We are at odds over whether science is real. We are at odds over whether an election has been won or lost. We are at odds over the value of compromise.”

What is a miscarriage and how common are they?

A miscarriage is the loss of a pregnancy before 24 weeks in the UK, and 20 weeks in the US.

After this point, a pregnancy loss is classed as a stillbirth.

Sadly, miscarriages are common with most happening in the first three months – the first trimester.

An estimated one in eight pregnancies will end in miscarriage, according to the NHS.

But, in many cases a miscarriage will happen before a woman knows she’s pregnant.

It is important to know miscarriages rarely happen because of something you did, or didn’t do. In most cases, doctors don’t know what causes the loss, which makes it very hard to prevent them.

However, there are lifestyle changes that can help reduce the risk of a miscarriage, according to the charity Tommy’s.

They include not smoking, eating a healthy, balanced diet, losing weight before pregnancy if you’re overweight or obese, trying to avoid infections in pregnancy like rubella, not drinking alcohol or using illegal drugs, staying active and limiting caffeine intake.

The risk of miscarriage does also increase with age, according to Tommy’s.

Women under 30 have a 10 per cent chance of miscarriage, which doubles to 20 per cent for women aged 35 to 39. For those over the age of 45, the risk is 50 per cent.

The most common sign of miscarriage is bleeding, but cramping, a discharge of fluid or tissue from your vagina and no longer ‘feeling’ pregnant are also symptoms.

Many women will notice light bleeding in the early stages of pregnancy, but if you are worried it is important to speak to your midwife or hospital straight away.

Losing a baby is a deeply personal experience that affects people differently.

No matter when in your pregnancy you suffer a miscarriage or stillbirth, support is available from hospital counselling services as well as Tommy’s and other charity groups.
https://www.tommys.org/

A source close to the Duchess of Sussex today told the BBC Meghan is currently in good health.

The source said the couple had taken time to process what happened and made the decision to talk about it publicly after realising how common miscarriages are.

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