As much as Pampers and Huggies like to claim that their diapers will leave your child feeling comfortable and dry for hours, you’d be hard pressed to find a parent who waits 12 hours to change their kid.
The American Pregnancy Association recommends changing a baby’s dirty diaper every two to three hours, and for most parents, this is a reasonable schedule.
But what if it isn’t the parent or caregiver that is making this decision, and instead the child gets to decide when they would like their diaper changed?
As odd as that may sound, there are some people out there who believe that parents should ask their children permission before changing them.
One mom, Lottie Daley, recently appeared on This Morning to discuss the topic, explaining that she always lets her baby know when she is about to change her diaper.
“When you start learning about body autonomy and consent for our children when they become a bit older, we should be modelling this behavior from birth, like letting your baby know you are changing its nappy,” she told the hosts of the daytime show.
Daley insists that it is not about “saying ‘yes’ or ‘no,'” (which would be impossible anyway if it’s a baby), but it’s a way to get children into the habit of knowing that their body belongs to them and others should always seek their permission before touching them.
The mother of three, who also happens to be comedian Russell Brand’s friend, revealed that she asks for her older children’s consent before washing them or tickling them.
“When I’m washing my daughters, who are a bit older, they are seven and five, when I’ve got to wash their bottoms, I do say, ‘Can mummy just wash your bottom?’ because sometimes you have to. And they say, ‘yes’ or ‘no.'”
When it comes to ticking, Daley’s girls are fine with her doing it to them, but they said they “would be scared” if it was a stranger.
Daley argued that we now “need to rethink the wider issue of consent, it’s not just applicable to teenagers, it’s applicable from birth. I think we should start to ask those questions and when you look at the wider context, we need to.”
However, not everyone was on her side, especially when it comes to the stance that tickling should be made illegal.
“I think it’s an absolute shame to say you can’t tickle,” host Vanessa Feltz replied. “You don’t tickle someone you don’t know or a child who doesn’t trust you… and start forcibly tickling. But it is the ultimate innocent love, care, fun, physical contact with a child you love and who loves you.”
People on social media called Daley’s arguments “absolutely ridiculous,” with one Twitter user pointing out that not only is it “silly” to not be able to tickle your own child, but “soon [you] won’t be able to touch your child” at all.
Daley’s appearance on the British morning show comes on the heels of Brand telling The Daily Star that the act “violates their [children’s] bodily autonomy.”
“It is an attempt to subvert the child’s bodily autonomy, to take away their right to their own space and peace,” he continued. “Would you do it to an adult? Would you insert your rigid fingers into their belly or their armpits? Of course not.”