A mother who lost her baby daughter at just eight days old while she was fighting cancer has revealed vile abuse she has suffered from an online troll.
Heidi Loughlin, 36, was diagnosed with an aggressive breast cancer in 2015 while pregnant with her third child, Ally.
Mrs Loughlin decided to delay chemotherapy treatment and a doctor-recommended abortion because she wanted to give the baby a fighting chance of survival.
Ally was then born 12 weeks early in December 2015 but contracted an infection and died just days later.
Heidi Loughlin, pictured left and right with children Noah, five, and Tait, four, has revealed she has been the target of online abuse by a troll on her blog about her breast cancer
She shared the comment on Facebook in which the troll called her a ‘selfish, lying, miserable human being’ and added ‘her godawful choices’ led to her baby’s death
Mrs Loughlin has now revealed a ‘personal’ attack via a comment on her popular blog on her experiences, where she was told ‘your choices killed your baby’.
Writing under the name Kitty Meijer, the commenter said: ‘I never understood why you chose to ignore the cancer signs, I mean looking at old pics of your t**s CLEARLY all the signs were there.
‘But no, you just chose to continue breastfeeding and planning your pregnancy (they must have really loved you at work, three in three years, way to put more work on your co-workers) and generally only thinking of how awesome you were as a person.
‘Then, when you already had two kids you decided that they and your husband were less important than it was for you to be a martyr, so you decided to f**k it all and delay cancer treatment so you could have another baby.
‘After that you don’t even give that baby a chance, but you force her to be born three months early and to top your bull**** even further, you complain that Ally was taken from you blablablabla.’
Mrs Loughlin pictured with daughter Ally who was born 12 weeks early and died after just eight days
Mrs Loughlin was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2015 when she realised something was wrong while breastfeeding youngest son Tait, pictured together
She was told the cancer was terminal in 2016, but was told by doctors she was ‘currently cancer free’ last December after taking drug Kadcyla
Meijer added: ‘Cancer had nothing to do with her death, your GODAWFUL CHOICES however, led directly to her death.
‘Thank God Ally got taken away from you, you selfish lying miserable excuse for a mother and a human being.
‘Your choices concern only you, and everybody around you just has to deal with your s***. You made your cancer bed, now lie in it and die.’
THE COMMON SIGNS OF BREAST CANCER
- A change in size or shape
- A lump or area that feels thicker than the rest of the breast
- A change in skin texture such as puckering or dimpling (like the skin of an orange)
- Redness or rash on the skin and/or around the nipple
- Your nipple has become pulled in or looks different, for example changed its position or shape
- Liquid that comes from the nipple without squeezing
- Pain in your breast or your armpit that’s there all or almost all of the time
- A swelling in your armpit or around your collarbone
Sharing the abusive message in a Facebook post, Mrs Loughlin said she didn’t know what to say about the attack.
Speaking to the Bristol Post, she said it was important to expose the abuse and raise awareness in case other women were targeted.
She said: ‘I know someone writing under that name has targeted another mum who has also lost a child.
‘I have such a lovely group of supporters, there was no way this person was going to bring me down. But I did want to share their comments to help other women who might be targeted.
‘I think the word troll doesn’t really go far enough, they are almost emotional terrorists. They are obviously very sad people who want to make other people feel sad like them.’
Ms Loughlin, who is also mother to Noah, 4, and Tait, 3, was told in September 2016 that her cancer was terminal.
But in an incredible turn of events, a scan last December showed her body was free of the disease – believed to be because of revolutionary drug Kadcyla.
The drug was approved by Nice, the NHS’ drug rationing watchdog, last year for thousands of women who suffer from a rare, aggressive breast cancer.
Mrs Loughlin said she was highlighting the comments to raise awareness so other women were not targeted
There is still no complete cure however and she said she faces having to undergo chemotherapy for the rest of her life.
Mrs Loughlin has won a legion of fans online for her up-front and brutally honest blog, called Storm in a Tit Cup, about the disease.
She has also been ticking items off her bucket list – including visiting Disneyland Paris at Christmas, marrying her fiancé and taking a road trip across America.
Her blog can be found here: http://storminatitcup.blogspot.co.uk/.
THE BIGGEST BREAKTHROUGH FOR BREAST CANCER PATIENTS
Thousands of breast cancer sufferers are now be able to take a revolutionary drug following its approval for routine use on the NHS.
Kadcyla, considered the biggest breakthrough for sufferers in the last decade, was previously rejected due to its cost.
Campaigners reacted in anger when rationing watchdog NICE made the decision to block the medication in England two years ago.
But a decision in June meant 1,200 women dying with advanced HER2-positive breast cancer – one of the most aggressive forms of the disease – can now get their hands on the life-saving drug.
Kadcyla, considered the biggest breakthrough for sufferers in the last decade, was previously rejected due to its cost. But the NHS has announced it will now be available for thousands
Advocates of the life-saving drug called the NHS’ cut-price deal with its manufacturer as being a major victory for sufferers.
Baroness Delyth Morgan, chief executive of Breast Cancer Now, was behind desperate pleas to make the drug available to women in England before the new proposals were announced.
She previously lambasted NICE for denying sufferers access to the drug that is available in France, Germany, Australia and Canada.
A report in August criticised NICE of failing to negotiate on the price – and warned of the rigid medical assessment system.
But NHS England managed to strike a deal with Swiss manufacturer Roche to make the drug, which is delivered by a drip every three weeks, available.
Previously, patients could only access it through the Cancer Drugs Fund, before the responsibility was passed over to NICE last July.
In clinical trials, Kadcyla was shown to extend the lives of people with terminal cancer by an average of six months.
The drug, which normally costs £90,000 per patient, also dramatically improves quality of life, compared with other treatments, and reduces side-effects.