DEAR DEIDRE: MY husband divorced me, saying he wanted something better in life – a spick and span home that doesn’t have children’s scribbles all over the walls.
We have two boys aged ten and eight. I’m 33 and my husband is 35. Afterwards, I got on with my life and was doing well. He came back when he realised I wasn’t falling apart.
I let him back for the children’s sake but I feel used. I pay all the bills and he contributes nothing even though he has a job.
He doesn’t tell me he loves me. I’ve changed as a person but he hasn’t, even though that was a condition of him coming back.
He’s a drinker and I’m not attracted to him. He wants sex but spends his leisure time at the pub, not with me
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DEIDRE SAYS: You have discovered you don’t fall apart without him. For your children, seeing you accept this poor treatment is very damaging for them.
Tell your husband he hasn’t kept his side of the bargain.
He is drinking too much and not pulling his weight at home.
Give him three months to change or insist he leaves. My e-leaflet Dealing With A Drinker explains more.
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