DEAR DEIDRE: MY girlfriend is having an affair. One part of me is upset but another part of me wants to get revenge.
I had a headache last week and looked in her bag for some painkillers. Instead I found condom wrappers and some guy’s boxer shorts.
I am 46, she is 24 and I pay for everything – her clothes, her shoes, her food and even her weekends out with her friends. This is going to stop immediately.
What makes it worse is that I can’t get an erection any more – while she giggles and makes jokes. Knowing she is doing it with someone else makes me mad.
I’ve started to hate her. I keep thinking of ways to get my own back.
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DEIDRE SAYS: Revenge may give you some very shortlived relief but it is not the answer.
It is clear she is making use of you – and you are rightly angry about it.
Best to break if off with her and look for someone who will value your generosity and never think of cheating on you. My e-leaflet on Solving Erection Problems explains self-help sex therapy to help in your next relationship.
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