Sled dogs have a lot to teach about body positivity (19 Photos)

Beautiful words, but the message is also bullshit. Should you hate yourself for your body type? Of course not, there’s nothing you can do about that. Should you hate yourself for being fat and out of shape? Also no, because that won’t help you improve, but neither will telling yourself that you can’t do anything about it. There’s no magic diet or exercise plan that’s just waiting to be discovered that will work wonders for everyone. Cut your calorie intake and do some exercise, any kind of exercise, for half an hour a day. It’s not complicated, it’s just difficult to do. I’d rather eat pizza and cheeseburgers, but I can’t do that unless I’m fine with weighing 280 and barely being able to break into a run. I made some changes, lost some weight and got in shape, and I feel a hell of a lot better about myself. You can do it too.
The message is it’s not your place to decide when, how and why someone does something for themselves. Telling someone else they can lose weight when they don’t want to or aren’t in a position to do so is counterproductive and does more harm than good.
If someone is working toward that goal, by all means encourage the shit out of them, but if they’re not ready to make that commitment, what you think is encouragement can easily be seen as being judgemental and pushy, which often has the opposite effect on motivation. My mother in law does that to my estranged wife all the time, and the only thing it does is stress the wife out and discourage her; particularly, her mother has kept a box full of the clothes she used to fit that her mother says is to encourage her to get back into, but the wife only sees it as a painful reminder of who she used to be which triggers her bipolar anxiety and sends her tailspinning into a deeper depression.
Just as there’s no magic diet or exercise plan that works for everyone, there’s also no set or guaranteed method of encouraging someone who doesn’t want to – or simply can’t – put the work in.
Actually diet and exercise will work for everyone IF they are ready to do it. I know what I need to do but every night after work I some excuse for not do it. I do have chronic pain throughout my body but I could go for a walk…. but every night I have an excuse! Pain in my knees, lower back, neck, the broken leg that didn’t heal correctly and has pretty much been fractured for the last 18 years… but I COULD do it. Depression plays a part, feeling like there’s no point to do it, “I’m still going to be fat tomorrow” thoughts are constantly in my mind. I’m not lazy, I don’t just lay around, I’m active with my job and kids, I just feel weighed down with my thoughts!
I know all this is going on with me and I still can’t fight out of it.
Outside of some sort of disability, ‘can’t’ is rarely the case. It’s not easy, but it’s almost always doable.
I’m not encouraging anyone to body shame. On the other hand, if it’s someone I care about, I’d rather gently encourage when it won’t help than to not encourage when it will help.

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