A straight man has revealed that he had no idea what transsexual meant until he had a one-night stand with a transgender woman who later became his wife.
John Alicea, 44, and his wife Misty Moe, 43, open up about their surprising love story on Friday night’s episode of the We TV reality series Extreme Love, which takes an intimate look at some of the most unusual relationships across the globe.
The unlikely pair met on an online dating site, and while John was immediately attracted to Misty’s ‘big hair and big butt,’ he was admittedly baffled by her bio.
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Surprising love story: John Alicea (left) admits he had no idea what transsexual meant before meeting his now-wife Misty Moe (right), who is a transgender woman
Meet cute: The two met on a dating site, and Misty recalls her profile saying she was a ‘Big Beautiful Woman’ and transsexual
‘I said in my profile I’m a BBW/TS. If you’re looking for a unique encounter I might be your special girl with something extra,’ Misty recalls.
Misty told him that BBW stands for ‘Big Beautiful Woman’ and TS means transsexual. Although he thought the first description was ‘cool,’ he didn’t quite understand the second.
‘I’m like, “What’s transsexual mean?”‘ he admits. ‘She said, “When a guy transforms into a woman.” I’m like, “a whaa?”‘
John says he grew up in a tough neighborhood on Chicago’s North Side, noting he ‘literally lived between five gangs.’
Love at first sight: John was immediately attracted to Misty’s ‘big hair and big butt,’ he was admittedly baffled by her bio
As someone who loves feminine curves, John says he was flirting with women all of the time and never had any interest the male anatomy.
‘If a gay guy starts talking to me,’ he explains, ‘I’ll push him away [and say], “Get off me. I don’t want you.”‘
John says he always used to have a ‘one-nighter’ on his birthday, and he was looking for that when he came across his future wife’s dating profile.
Misty was born a man but began transitioning to female in her early 20s when she moved to Florida.
Although she has had surgeries to permanently alter her appearance, she has yet to have bottom surgery, an operation to turn her penis into a vagina.
Throwback: John says he was a flirt who grew up in a tough neighborhood in Chicago. When Misty explained that she was transsexual, he asked her what that meant
Confused: ‘I’m like, “What’s transsexual mean?”‘ he recalls. ‘She said, “When a guy transforms into a woman.” I’m like, “a whaa?”‘
Misty says she knew she was a little girl when she was just two years old — even her toys were pink. Growing up, she liked to have long hair because she wanted to feel ‘pretty’ and ‘feminine.’
‘I pretended to be a man for many years, and I pretended to be gay for many years because I thought that’s what I was,’ Misty explains.
‘I knew I was attracted to men and therefore I must be gay. I didn’t realize all along I was a straight woman.’
The night Misty went to her first gay bar, she saw a drag queen performing on stage and realized that gender wasn’t binary.
Looking back: Misty says she knew she was a little girl when she was just two years old — even her toys were pink
Hard times: Misty (pictured) liked to feel pretty and feminine, but she pretended to be a gay man for years
Epiphany: After Misty started working as a drag queen, she realized she was actually a transgender woman
She went on to become a drag performer, but it wasn’t until years later that she understood that she wasn’t just a drag queen, she was a transgender woman.
Misty still performs under the stage name ‘Misty Eyez’ and her drag act has taken her all over the country.
Before John, she dated guys who were a decade or more older than she was because she was attracted to maturity and stability. All of her exes also happened to be gay.
Misty and John’s chance meeting on a dating site led to them falling in love and eventually getting married.
In a preview clip for the upcoming episode of the reality series, Misty and John exchange their emotional vows.
Look of love: Misty and John’s chance meeting on a dating site led to them falling in love and eventually getting married
Tears of joy: Footage from their wedding shows Misty crying as she tells John he is everything she prayed for her a little girl
Happy day: The two share a passionate kiss after they’re pronounced husband and wife
‘When I was a little girl I prayed for my future husband,’ Misty says, bursting into tears.
‘It’s okay. Let it out. Let it out. It’s alright,’ her doting groom responds, giving her the strength to continue.
‘I prayed for my future husband and you’re everything I ever prayed for,’ she continues. ‘You’re loyal and protective. You’re my bodyguard. You’re my best friend. You’re my soulmate.
‘I love you. I’m so thankful to be your wife. I can’t say any more. That’s it.’
Although he wasn’t as tearful as his wife, John’s vows were just as romantic.
‘Having you as a life partner is God’s gift to me, and I would do anything to protect you because you are mine and I am yours,’ he tells Misty.
The couple’s wedding guests can’t help but cheer as they share a passionate kiss after they are pronounced husband and wife.