Society bible Tatler has released a handy etiquette guide to help you navigate the complex world of social media.
The tongue-in-cheek list, published in the April issue today, advises readers on the correct way to use WhatsApp and the rules surrounding Instagramming a friend’s wedding.
But there are also some long-standing rules for offline engagement that remain in place – like never asking guests to remove their shoes or sending them a bill after their stay.
So read on if you want to brush up on the dos and don’ts of polite digital behaviour. But remember the unbreakable rule: phones should always be put away in company…
Society bible Tatler has released a handy guide to help you navigate the complex etiquette rules of social media. Stock image
1. WhatsApp groups are to be avoided when organising a party. There should be some mystery as to who’s coming
2. If you’ve been included in a group, do not leave. It will offend people. (Only the Hon Philippa Cadogan can get away with this)
3. Inter-generational WhatsApping is best avoided – although aristocratic family chats are now de rigeur, the wittiest being the De La Warr/Hopetoun clique
4. Turning off blue ticks is advisable for those prone to severe social anxiety
Always remember the unbreakable rule: phones should always be put away in company
1. You may post pictures of other people’s gardens, but never post pictures of the insside of their homes without permission.
2. You may post pictures of other people’s pets, but not of their children.
3. Engagement announcements are for The Times, not your Instagram feed.
4. For new friends of royals: the social-media blackout should be observed zealously.
5. Never post a picture of an invitation unless you want it to be rescinded.
6. Weddings: If the couple put an @ or a # on the invitation, it is acceptable – even compulsary – for you to post pictures of their wedding. If they do not, you may not.
7. When meeting someone you follow for the first time IRL, do not pretend that you don’t know who they are.
Old rules die hard
1. Do not send bills to your guests. Even if they rip up a Rembrandt and smash the Sevres. (You can be more selective in future though).
2. Never, ever ask your guests to take off their shoes.
3. Invitation is a noun. Invite is a verb. You do not send invites.
4. Never give your host Hotel Chocolat chocolates – they’ll know immediately that you bought them at the station.
See the full feature in the April issue of Tatler, available via digital download or newsstands now.