The abuse ex inflicted on me plays on my mind even with a new boyfriend

DEAR DEIDRE: FOR years I had an abusive boyfriend and even now someone raising their voice scares me.

I am 19 now but started seeing my ex when I was 15. It got so bad I had to call the police and there is now a restraining order in place.

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Four months ago I met a new boyfriend and we are very much in love.

He looks after me so well, yet I am still hurting. I think of things my ex did and get a pain in my chest.

I don’t love him any longer but I just feel I am bottling things up.

I am desperate to get over the past and move on but it seems impossible.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is only now that you are safe and secure you are able to allow your past fears to surface.

It’s great you are free of your abusive ex and you will find reassurance that you made the right choice on a website for youngsters called

It will help to talk, too. Contact The Mix, which helps under-25s (, 0808 808 4994).

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