When I was 13, a football coach sexually abused me and it continues to ruin my life

DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN I was 13, a football coach I hero-worshipped sexually molested me. It ruined my childhood and, even now, I keep returning to that moment.

I am 30, I have a good job and give the impression of being a happy-go-lucky, hard-working guy. It is a mask. Inside, I often wish I was dead.

When I was 13, a football coach sexually molested me and it still ruins my life
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I’ve never had a girlfriend and I am jealous of my best mate who gets lots of female attention. We had a bust-up last week after I sulked when he was chatting with a girl mate at work. He told me to grow up and act my age.

I agreed with him but how can I change? I just want to go back in time and give that 13-year-old me a hug.

DEIDRE SAYS: Such abuse can leave long-lasting emotional scars.

The right support can help you recover from the trauma of the abuse you suffered as a 13-year-old.

A counsellor can play a key part in this process.

Talk to the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (napac.org.uk, 0808 801 0331). Is that coach still working with young people? You may want to report what he did to the police.

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